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7 Helpful Things to Say to Someone with Depression

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“Depression has a way of being an all-consuming, monster of a battle. It takes a toll physically and emotionally. It’s often stigmatized. But perhaps one of the biggest struggles for those who suffer is the feeling that no one else in the world can truly understand what they’re going through.”
“However, those feelings of isolation provide one of the biggest opportunities for loved ones to help, explains Gregory Dalack, M.D., chair of the department of psychiatry at the University of Michigan.”

“The key thing is to help the [depressed] person know that you understand that they’re ill,” he tells The Huffington Post. “A lot of people view depression as some sort of character flaw. To let someone know that you understand that this is an illness that needs to be treated is important.”

“The fact is, depression isn’t an easy fight — but you don’t have to suffer from it in order to be a source of comfort for those who do. If you’re looking to support someone with depression but can’t exactly figure out what to say, mental health experts offer the seven suggestions below — and explain why these phrases matter.”

“I’m here for you.”

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“Sometimes the smallest gestures go a long way, Dalack explains. By telling someone with depression that you’re there for them — and then really showing it — you’re probably helping more than you realize. “It requires a little reflection and thought to be supportive,” Dalack says. “Family members, friends and significant others have an opportunity to help in a way that’s not judgmental — even if it’s just helping them get to appointments, take medications or stick to a daily routine.”

“You’re not alone.”

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“Depression can feel like driving through a dark tunnel that you’re navigating alone. It’s important for loved ones to make it clear to those suffering that they don’t have to journey through the disorder by themselves, says Adam Kaplin, M.D., an associate professor in the departments of psychiatry and neurology at Johns Hopkins.”

“It may look incredibly bleak for them right now,” he says. “It’s helpful to remind them that the feelings are temporary and you’ll be right there with them. Say, ‘It’s you and me against the depression, and we will win.”

“This is not your fault.”

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“Letting loved ones know that depression isn’t their fault is crucial to the healing process, Dalack says. “Sometimes folks with depression feel that it happens because there is something wrong with them,” he explains. “When you have the flu, you can’t remember what it feels like to feel good. Well, when your brain is the main target of the illness, it’s even harder to deal with because your mind is affected along with the rest of your body — but you feel like it’s your fault. It’s important to convey that you understand that they’re suffering from an illness almost in the same way as they suffer from the flu.”
“For those who don’t understand the complicated nuances of depression, telling someone to “buck up” or asking what they have to be sad about may seem logical. However, phrases like these suggest that depression is something they’re choosing to live with, Dalack says.”

“Those all imply that there’s something that the person is doing to get them into that state,” he says. “It’s not their choice, just like it’s not your choice to get the flu. You didn’t ask for it and you’re not going to snap out of it. If we don’t think of depression in the same way, then you increase the likelihood that someone is going to victimize themselves.”

“I’ll go with you.”

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“This goes for therapy sessions, doctor appointments or even just the pharmacy. “It’s not going to be an overnight cure, but being there during the process of treatment can help them see it through,” Dalack says. “The only thing harder than encouraging someone to seek treatment is getting them to follow through and complete it. By offering to go with them, you’re not only being supportive, but you’re telling them that what they have is treatable and not just brushing it off as something that’s no big deal.”

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20 Of The Littlest, Everyday Things That You Don’t Realize Make Or Break Your Day

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You’ve probably heard it a million times: “It’s the little things.” Yes, it’s cliché to say, but it’s true – it’s the smallest things day-in and day-out that can turn an otherwise mundane existence into something interesting, funny, or great. If these aren’t some of the best “little things” in the world, I don’t know what are.

1. Your dog curling up in a ball, right next to you, laying his head or paw on your lap, and sighing that heavily, contented sigh. In that moment, everything is right, you are loved, and your heart is full.

2. Crafting the absolute perfect cup of coffee. Some mornings, it’s too bitter. Other mornings, it’s too weak. But, this morning, it’s perfectly sweet, perfectly strong, and the perfectly perfect start to your day.

3. Picking the most epic booger to end all boogers. Like, so epic that you’re pretty sure you just cleaned…

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25 People On The Sexiest “Nonsexual” Thing A Person Can Do

Sexiest Nonsexual Things You Can Do

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“1. Smell amazing.
Not even just cologne. Did you know beard oil is a thing? It smells unbelievably good.

2. I find men who are very masculine but briefly do something very feminine with their mouth, hands, or hips make my panties go full Niagara.

3. Laugh hard.
I’m always put off by women that feel they need to contain themselves. Your sense of humor is a huge part of who you are; don’t hide it.”

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“4. When a guy rolls up his sleeves…something about the forearm.

5. Show insight, intelligence or wit.”

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“6. Wear glasses and be a smart-ass jokester. Bonus points for doing both at the same time.

7. Smile and be polite to you even if they don’t know you.

8. We have this super-hot redhead at my work. But what makes her so attractive is that she is very nice to everyone regardless of what they look like or if they are above or below her as far as status. That and she is funny…suuuuuper sexy when a girl is funny.”

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“10. Little random acts of kindness that they don’t expect other people to notice.
Like helping others pick things up, smiling, or making silly faces at little kids as they pass, offering little words of encouragement to others. There’s so many. It gets me every time.

11. Be decisive.
My ex would never take charge or make a decision then afterwards would bitch, my current girlfriend often doesn’t even ask for my input before making a decision and I think it’s incredibly sexy. To clarify, she usually only decides simple things without my input. Like where to eat, what movie to see, what to do on date nights, things like that.

12. Black rim glasses. I know girls that wear them and they lose attractiveness as soon as they take them off.”

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16 Things About Life You Know Deep Down To Be True

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1. In an office environment, you could get rid of 25% of the people there and the company would not miss a beat.

2. Girls get away with a lot of shit when they’re young. And when they begin to lose their looks, they grow up. Ugly girls grow up a lot faster than pretty girls.

3. In the United States, it’s better to be white in the majority of socioeconomically important situations. This is what minorities talk about when they talk about “white privilege”.

4. All heterosexual men have had at least one intensely sexual thought about every girl in his life who’s a 6 or above. 4 and above if she’s in his life a lot.

5. Everybody wants something from somebody. Every relationship has a price attached to it. It doesn’t have to be denominated in dollars, but oftentimes money is…

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17 Things You Stop Caring About The Closer You Get To 30

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1. Reaching certain life milestones or hitting X goal by X age. When you’re in your early 20s you feel so pressured to do things by a certain time. Finish college by 22. Have your dream job by 25. Meet the perfect significant other and be married/settled down by 30. You know now that life doesn’t always go as expected. You change jobs, majors, fall in and out of love, and realize most things can’t be defined simply by time and age. Now you listen to your intuition and trust yourself to hit those important milestones when it feels right to you.

2. Worrying about meeting the “right” person. Dating actually doesn’t get any harder the older you get. It gets a lot easier. Pop culture and society makes us believe that the older you are, the harder it is to find someone to fall in love with. If…

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5 Things I Didn’t Learn In School

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In school I learned how to calculate the area of a circle and how to count to ten in Spanish. But all I really wanted to know was how to kiss a girl. For some reason they didn’t have a class on that.

And then in college they taught me how oil money can disrupt domestic governments in the Middle East, and how to discuss philosophical treaties on Justice, and that if I mastered the dynamics of a supply and demand curve, the universe would reveal itself to me. Unfortunately, this turned out not to be true. Although I could plot those curves like nobody’s business, I was still lost in a broader sense.   

Again, they didn’t have the classes I wanted. How to Have Friends and not be Lonely, or A Beginner’s Guide to Overcoming Anxiety and Creating Abundance. Everyone else seemed to already have…

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13 Things You Should Say To Your Significant Other Every Day

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While some people need to hear, “I love you,” every day, I’m more into showing versus telling. The following phrases are ways to demonstrate that you love your significant other and should be said early and often, on a daily basis, if possible. It’s best to practice saying some of these things into a mirror and imagining the delight it will give your partner. (Saying, “I love you” every day will always be appreciated as well. Just make sure it’s not a substitute for behaving accordingly.)

1. “You look great.”

I want to know that you still find me delightfully appealing (even when I haven’t showered, shaved or put on anything more than a t-shirt and boxers) and that your attraction to me is never-ending despite our sharing a bathroom. If I’ve showered and put myself together enough to look presentable, then I really need to hear this because it…

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