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13 Things People With Anxiety Are Tired of Hearing, And What You Can Say Instead

What to Say For Anxiety  
“People who live with anxiety often have the pleasure of hearing unsolicited advice and words of wisdom from others. Even when people have the best intentions, this can be somewhat annoying. The Mighty decided to ask people who live with anxiety two things: 1) What’s something you’re tired of hearing? And 2) What’s something you’d like to hear from others?”

Here’s what they had to say: 

1. Don’t say: “You can’t control what is going to happen, so why are you anxious about it?”

“Instead, try this: “I understand that you are anxious because you can’t control this situation, but maybe you could try to focus your energy on what you can control.”


2. Don’t say: “What do you have to be anxious about?”

Instead, try this: “Wow. You’re suffering from anxiety disorder? What exactly is that for you, and what does it mean to be anxious?”
3. Don’t say: “Get over it.“

Instead, try this: “Are you OK?”


4. Don’t say: “It’s all in your head.” 

Instead, try this: “I’m here for you with whatever you need right now.”
5. Don’t say: “It’s not that big of a deal. Stop worrying too much.” 

Instead, try this: “What can I do to help?”
6. Don’t say: “Don’t worry, things will turn out fine.“

Instead, try this: “It will pass. Just keep breathing.”

7. Don’t say: “Just trust God. You should have more faith.“

Instead, try this: “I’m sorry you are struggling with this.”
8. Don’t say: “You don’t know what will happen so stop freaking out about it.” 

Instead, try this: “It sounds like you’re having a hard time. I’m here if you want to talk, or I’ll just stay with you.”
9. Don’t say: “It’s all in your head.”

Instead, try this: “It’s OK to feel this way.”

10. Don’t say: “I know, I worry about things too.“

Instead, try this: “I don’t know how you feel right now, but I can tell you’re overwhelmed. What can I do for you, or do you need me to do anything?”
11. Don’t say: “It could be worse.“

Instead, try this: “Just don’t give up.”
12. Don’t say: “Think happy thoughts.“

Instead, try this: “That’s got to be tough.”

13. Don’t say: “Just calm down.“

Instead, try this: “What do you need?”


7 Helpful Things to Say to Someone with Depression

Helpful Things to Say
“Depression has a way of being an all-consuming, monster of a battle. It takes a toll physically and emotionally. It’s often stigmatized. But perhaps one of the biggest struggles for those who suffer is the feeling that no one else in the world can truly understand what they’re going through.”
“However, those feelings of isolation provide one of the biggest opportunities for loved ones to help, explains Gregory Dalack, M.D., chair of the department of psychiatry at the University of Michigan.”

“The key thing is to help the [depressed] person know that you understand that they’re ill,” he tells The Huffington Post. “A lot of people view depression as some sort of character flaw. To let someone know that you understand that this is an illness that needs to be treated is important.”

“The fact is, depression isn’t an easy fight — but you don’t have to suffer from it in order to be a source of comfort for those who do. If you’re looking to support someone with depression but can’t exactly figure out what to say, mental health experts offer the seven suggestions below — and explain why these phrases matter.”

“I’m here for you.”

“Sometimes the smallest gestures go a long way, Dalack explains. By telling someone with depression that you’re there for them — and then really showing it — you’re probably helping more than you realize. “It requires a little reflection and thought to be supportive,” Dalack says. “Family members, friends and significant others have an opportunity to help in a way that’s not judgmental — even if it’s just helping them get to appointments, take medications or stick to a daily routine.”

“You’re not alone.”

“Depression can feel like driving through a dark tunnel that you’re navigating alone. It’s important for loved ones to make it clear to those suffering that they don’t have to journey through the disorder by themselves, says Adam Kaplin, M.D., an associate professor in the departments of psychiatry and neurology at Johns Hopkins.”

“It may look incredibly bleak for them right now,” he says. “It’s helpful to remind them that the feelings are temporary and you’ll be right there with them. Say, ‘It’s you and me against the depression, and we will win.”

“This is not your fault.”


“Letting loved ones know that depression isn’t their fault is crucial to the healing process, Dalack says. “Sometimes folks with depression feel that it happens because there is something wrong with them,” he explains. “When you have the flu, you can’t remember what it feels like to feel good. Well, when your brain is the main target of the illness, it’s even harder to deal with because your mind is affected along with the rest of your body — but you feel like it’s your fault. It’s important to convey that you understand that they’re suffering from an illness almost in the same way as they suffer from the flu.”
“For those who don’t understand the complicated nuances of depression, telling someone to “buck up” or asking what they have to be sad about may seem logical. However, phrases like these suggest that depression is something they’re choosing to live with, Dalack says.”

“Those all imply that there’s something that the person is doing to get them into that state,” he says. “It’s not their choice, just like it’s not your choice to get the flu. You didn’t ask for it and you’re not going to snap out of it. If we don’t think of depression in the same way, then you increase the likelihood that someone is going to victimize themselves.”

“I’ll go with you.”


“This goes for therapy sessions, doctor appointments or even just the pharmacy. “It’s not going to be an overnight cure, but being there during the process of treatment can help them see it through,” Dalack says. “The only thing harder than encouraging someone to seek treatment is getting them to follow through and complete it. By offering to go with them, you’re not only being supportive, but you’re telling them that what they have is treatable and not just brushing it off as something that’s no big deal.”

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Bipolar Disorder: Helping Someone During a Manic Episode

How to Help
“You may feel frustrated around a person with bipolar disorder who is having a manic episode. The high energy level can be tiring or even frightening. The person may also actually enjoy the mania and may not take medicines, which can prolong the episode. Also, the person may say and do unusual or hurtful things. You can help during a manic episode by doing the following:

Spend time with the person, depending on his or her level of energy and how well you can keep up. People who are manic often feel isolated from other people. Spending even short periods of time with them helps them feel less isolated. If the person has a lot of energy, walk together, which allows the person to keep on the move but share your company.

Answer questions honestly. But do not argue or debate with a person during a manic episode. Avoid intense conversation.

Don’t take any comments personally. During periods of high energy, a person often says and does things that he or she would not usually say or do, including focusing on negative aspects of others. If needed, stay away from the person and avoid arguments.

Avoid subjecting the person to a lot of activity and stimulation. It is best to keep surroundings as quiet as possible.

Allow the person to sleep whenever possible. During periods of high energy, sleeping is difficult and short naps may be taken throughout the day. Sometimes the person feels rested after only 2 to 3 hours of sleep.”




Slideshow: A Visual Guide to Generalized Anxiety Disorder

Generalized Anxiety Disorder

“Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD):
It’s natural to worry during stressful times. But some people feel tense and anxious day after day, even when there is little to worry about. When this lasts for six months or longer, it may be generalized anxiety disorder or GAD. This illness affects nearly seven million Americans. Unfortunately, many people don’t know they have it. So they can miss out on treatments that may lead to a better life.”

“Emotional Symptoms:
The main symptom of GAD is a constant and exaggerated sense of tension and anxiety. You may not be able to pinpoint a reason why you feel tense. Or you may worry too much about ordinary matters, such as bills, relationships, or your health. All this worrying can interfere with your sleep and ability to think straight. You may also feel irritable due to poor sleep or the illness itself.”

“Physical Symptoms:
Physical problems usually come along with the excess worry. They can include:

Muscle tension or pain
Nausea or diarrhea
Trembling or twitching”

“Everyday Worries:
Most people spend some time worrying about their troubles, whether money, job demands, or changing relationships. What sets GAD apart is the feeling that you can’t stop worrying. You may find it impossible to relax, even when you’re doing something you enjoy. In severe cases, GAD can interfere with work, relationships, and daily activities.”



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